Tag Archives: Lashon hara

I can understand the Christians in the Austin Messianic community who want to ostracize me and run my name through the mud under the guise of “protecting” others who may be vulnerable (some are going so far as to call as many people on their lists as they can to talk about me and my recent rejection of Jesus/Yeshua as messiah). I can also understand their huddling together like lost sheep trying to continue on with a few very green pseudo-leaders at the helm who are trying to protect and steer the “scattered flock.”

But I don’t understand and cannot excuse the cruelties they have committed against my godly wife. One of the former elders of the community is sending demand emails for his charity monies to be returned at my own personal expense. Never mind he is clueless about non-profit law–has he considered the effect this would have on my pregnant wife and child? Another elder in the community comes face to face with my wife at the Kosher Randalls in town and shuns her. All he can do is stare her down. This same man is the ring leader who has taken it upon himself to make this call-list and to get in touch with folks (to commit lashon hara) and he hasn’t even spoken to me and my wife to get all the facts. Rather than judging us fairly, he assumes I have ill intent (which is idiotic–I’m going into Orthodox Judaism–we don’t proselytize). Rather than consider that my wife is still a believer in Yeshu (a fact that he is well aware of), and treat her as a “sister,” he punishes her right along with me. There are no courtesy calls to ask for clarity. No words of love or encouragement. No pleas to repent. No offers to comfort my wife. She gets blacklisted right along with me as if she too is a heretic.

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I had hoped to speak with people in my chavurah either as a group or individually about my rejecting Jesus/Yeshua as the messiah. I have been waiting out of respect for my wife as she felt most comfortable bringing this up after Chanukkah because she is struggling with accepting this herself. Alas the info has leaked and some very pious Christians have taken it upon themselves to spread the word in the Austin community and through other online social media outlets without speaking with me and my wife first (this is lashon hara of course, may G-d have mercy on them). At the same time I realize they are acting according to Hashem’s will so I am grateful He is in control.

I have, by this post, spoken to some people on the phone. by email, or on Skype. Others I suspect will call or email in the days to come. To those who are filled with love and respect I will continue to speak with; or at least part ways with a heartfelt “shalom.”

All are welcomed to continue to follow my story and comment respectfully.

May everyone prepare for a holy and kosher Chanukkah!



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